Your out with the boys for a night on the town. You hit the pub to clink some glasses for a while, and soon enough you find yourself at your favorite nightclub. Your feeling good, and having a good time with the guys, what could go wrong.
That’s when you see her, a fucking stunner. Dressed to the nines, nails done hair done everything did, this girl is your dreamgirl, hands down. You lock eyes.
Stop right here, and let’s discuss what most men experience at this point. Approach anxiety can be a real son-of-a-bitch if not handled correctly. You get shakey, lose confidence which results in a loss in frame, self doubt creeps in and by the time all this happens she’s already laughing it up with another guy.
This is my favorite analogy(no pun intended) on Approach anxiety – It’s just like when you really have to take a shit. It’s uncomfortable, handled incorrectly can really mess up your night, and best of all, it happens to EVERYONE!
So, how can this be dealt with?
Remember that moment you locked eyes? This is your crucial moment, every second after this moment that you haven’t approached is only going to get weirder and weirder. Use a comfortable but direct opener when you begin a conversation with her, and you’ll find that this wasn’t as difficult as you thought.
Approach anxiety is just that – approach nerves. Once the approach is complete and a successful conversation is flowing the anxiety is well by the wayside. Take the second of nonverbal communication that SHE gave you, and act on it to create a genuine connection.
Simple as taking a shit.